With Thanksgiving and the winter holidays right around the corner, families prepare to gather around the dinner table to give thanks over food and conversation. But that gives some families pause, especially if you have that relative who always instigates a political debate at the dinner table. Given the recent election, he or she might be more likely to do so this year.
So how do you respond to that partisan in-law who asks whom you voted for? And then follows up asking how could you possibly support him/her? Or tries to pick a fight with you over policy? Ugh.
One approach to try this year is to “K.I.S.S.T.H.E.M.” as recommended by Dena Espencheid through her webinar at The Leadership Institute. “K.I.S.S.T.H.E.M.” stands for:
Kindness. In all political discussions, how ever you feel, try to be kind.
Identity. Experience shapes your intuition and over time your identity. How does your identity differ from your counterpart in the conversation? Take that into account.
Situational Awareness. Make sure it is a good time to enter a discussion about policy and politics. Has another argument just taken place? Maybe wait a few.
Signals. Be aware of the signals you are sending through your voice, smiles and body language.
Tell Stories. Stories can engage and illustrate a point in a memorable way.
Humor. When humor goes, everything goes. Use humor to release tension.
Empathy. Try to understand the other perspective, e.g. to show empathy you can say, “What I hear you saying is…”
Motive. What is your end goal? Why are you engaging with them? Know what you are trying to achieve. If it is to argue, you’ll likely have an argument. Likewise if it’s to understand, let that guide your actions and tone.
And be prepared with the facts! Read up on policy using Policy Circle briefs on hot topics from the election, e.g. Obamacare or taxes, or growing the economy. What’s your secret trick to dealing with politics at family gatherings? Leave a comment below and share your tips with your fellow Circle Members! We all benefit!
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